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One of the most central, basic conflicts,  so large as to be totally invisible to most of us, which we all face whether we know it or not or even like it or not, is how incredibly good we are at not dealing with real issues, especially when they concern our very innermost fears, desires, ambitions or even visions (if indeed we even have any).

I don’t think that human life has changed radically in the past 3000 years when we don’t consider the overwhelming effects that science, technology and medicine have had. Obviously, these have changed the entire ballgame in more ways than we can even begin to consider here, but what hasn’t changed is that whatever the undertaking of individuals has been, since recorded time (at least), everything we can observe  about our condition globally and personally is totally reducible. It all comes down to the particular actions of individual human beings. Yes yes, “No man is an island” and all that is true on several levels of thought, but intellectualizing isn’t going to help us here. No, it will keep us where we don’t want to be.

Now I’m not one who has any qualms with intellectual approaches to almost anything, but the fact is that in some cases it really isn’t the most effective way to find the root core of a problem and to neutralize it. The problem I am going to discuss arises when we use what I will term here “negative intellectualizing.”  Some people just call it making excuses,

I have observed, as so many others have, that we are living in an incredibly immature world. Sure there are millions of  grown ups on the planet, but it appears that the children, of any age up to centenarian levels, are the dominant force. This is a huge subject, but suffice to say for the limited purpose of this article that it is the childishness being constantly expressed by all of us which is the total killer. It kills our dreams. It kills our hopes. It kills our self respect, our happiness our ability to love and to prosper. It kills our very beings. And we don’t seem to be able to stop it significantly. On a global level it’s a total disaster. But on the personal one, it’s just a potentially manageable disaster.

Let’s look at a few situations and then you tell me if I’m blowing smoke here. Let’s start with Joe (could be anyone) who is looking for a job and is constantly being turned down. Joe knows why he is being turned down. Interview “A” hated him because he was ethnically challenged (in that situation . .maybe), “B” because he had too MUCH education, “C’ because he was threatened by him, “D” because he smelled funny . . .who cares? A child in this situation is not willing to remove himself from it when analyzing it so as to actually get some useful information which will allow him to really get the damn job. It’s all about what everyone else is doing wrong. Who here has grade school children who think like that? I guess it’s more acceptable for them, but when does one grow up? Good grief!

Let’s talk about Sara (could still be anyone) who is going into business for herself and can’t seem to make it work. The town has too many restrictions, the help doesn’t respect her, the customers are unreasonable, the suppliers are dishonest, the moon is too bright, there’s sand all over the beach . . .what’s the difference? Sara hasn’t a clue because she is still stuck in her child mode blaming everyone and everything rather than taking an objective look at herself. Many of you have heard this before, so I will say it again: Denial is not a river in Africa

A big part of our “mundo imaturo” can be traced back to the strong tendency to view everything in the world as it relates to just you. How does it feel to you? How does it look to you? How much is it worth to you? Does it offer immediate pain . . .or pleasure? Me me me me me me. And the sad thing is that we live our lives pursuing all these things and relationships and even when we get them, after some time these rewards will break, diminish, change . . .and we’re back again doing the same dance again and happiness is just not something we really seem to understand at all or can , most importantly, hold on to.

What the hell does this all have to do with becoming successful? What does it have to do with creating wealth in its many definitions? How can reading about this help me get my MLM, GPT, IM businesses making some headway??? EVERYTHING!! Can you hear me? EVERYTHING!

You have been reading my articles and you are aware that one of the most important manifestations of the successful entrepreneur today is discussed under the umbrella of “Attraction Marketing.” And what I am working to accomplish in this series of articles is to bring you the missing links for most, not all certainly, who find out about it (or haven’t yet) and become frozen, unable to seriously take it in to benefit from the wisdom contained.

• The main point of this article is that in order to succeed, not just in business, but in LIFE, one needs to step out of that breath crunching, chest gripping, heart plugging condition called denial,
• Consciously looking each and everyday not at what one does not “have” but that which one DOES have and make it a point to express genuine gratitude. Without gratitude there is not real hope for the kind of success, living success, most people say they are seeking.
• Taking full responsibility for everything in your life . . all your actions, all that happens to you . .EVERYTHING. If you err in this direction, believe me, the results you will enjoy will be so much greater than what you will ever have received in the whining, me me me me mode . .it will blow you away. NEVER say again how someone did you wrong. It’s history and has nothing to do with what you say you are seeking. Don’t waste a single second on it. It’s over. Done.

So closing up I will refer to the title character and ask you who is the Superman you secretly expect will come and save your butt? Where is he? Is he holding your winning 70 million dollar Mega Bonus Lottery ticket in his hot little hands just for you? Well, you can live out your life waiting for him to appear and not only never see it happen (the odds for Superman appearing and winning that jackpot are about equal), but die unhappy, unfulfilled and maybe even worse. OR, you could decide not to be that eternal child anymore, to actually grow up, stop relating everything that happens in the world directly back to you, take full responsibility, use that intelligence you have been given and don’t relinquish your real power because whining is easier, and instead, go out an do what will work. Dammit!

What works is you becoming someone of real value. Value to yourself and value to others. But especially by becoming of value to others,  you yourself will benefit so greatly you won’t even be thinking about the crap that fills up your days and nights right now. It will be gone, and in it’s place you will find all the love, happiness, and yes, even money that you want and need. But don’t just think about it. Take concrete action. I work with others on the web who think as I do and they are both my mentors and my partners and my life continues to get better since I have chosen to work with them, talk to them, be with them. That’s how you do it. You just don’t read an article like this, think, maybe, it sounds good, feel all revved up. And then just do exactly what you always do . . .and get what you always get. We need to grow up and take responsibility. Not just think about it . . more negative intellectualization.

I’ve been working with Mike Dillard and Brian Fanale who go into immense detail on all of this and whose energy is just phenomenal. I invite any of you who want to make a genuine change for the better in your lives to work with me (and them) and I will always be available to confer, help and support in any way needed.  Do you want to make some serious change for the better?

Do you want to be an “action taker” and not an “excuse maker?” Have you had enough yet? Well, if you have been doing what you’ve been doing and have not seen the kind of success you dream about, or if you are just starting out and haven’t made all the time sucking expensive mistakes yet,  don’t waste any of your time. This is not rocket science. This is not a big deal, financially.  Just do it!  Right now there are some terrific bonuses being offered to encourage you, like a 7 video course which alone is worth many times the small cost of signing up. Don’t miss a real moment where you can access an instrument of significant change for virtually nothing! Make the decision to really succeed in all the important ways.